Let’s be honest. Something or someone has made you feel envy or jealousy at least once in your life. It could be right now. Or something from the past.

I know no one wants to admit when they are feeling jealous or envious, but it happens. And since we are in October where we are focusing on our self-love, the first thing we should address is the elephant in our mental room.

Acknowledging and accepting the feeling of envy or jealousy in your journal entry today will put clarity and perspective in your mind and heart. Here is a guided journal prompt that will help you let go of that toxic behavior.

What is Envy?

Envy is the feeling you get when someone else has or enjoys something you want. You can feel envy from someone you know in real life, or from a stranger on social media.

This feeling stems from the feeling of discontentment. The feeling of lacking something in your life can make you feel envious when you see someone else enjoying what you need or want.

Say you need or want a newer car. You go on Instagram and see where Sally just posted her brand new 2025 Lexus, the car you’ve been wanting for a while.

If you start thinking, “She doesn’t even deserve that!”, then you are envious.

What is Jealousy?

Jealousy is when you feel threatened that someone or something could potentially take something you have. It’s when the new girl at work is doing a better job than you and you fear she might replace you soon.

Or when your boyfriend’s ex comes back into the picture and you fear she will manipulate him back into her arms.

This comes from the feeling of insecurity, fear of losing something, and overthinking.

Prompt: Write about who or what makes you envious and jealous

Before we get into letting these feelings go, you must address them head on in the most humbling and honest way. In your journal, write down anyone who you may be jealous of, and things that make you feel envious.

Once you have everything written out, look over the list for a good 10 minutes and reflect on why. Be honest. It’s ok to feel whatever you feel while asking yourself why.

When I did this prompt earlier this year, I felt shame. I never thought I would feel either of those emotions but I did. And once I addressed and acknowledged it, I felt so silly but better, and mentally lighter.

How To Change How You Feel When Envious?

The best way to change your emotions is to start looking for the blessings in your life. Gratitude is the best medicine when you start feeling jealous of others or the things they have.

Because no, you might not have the car Sally has, but you have a car that someone else needs. Think about people who have to ride the bus or take an Uber to get around.

Yes, you might feel a bit of jealousy to see your partner talking to someone else because they have a history of being a flirt. But don’t feel jealous. Because if they can fall into someone else’s arms that easily, they were never yours to have. Let. Them. GO. Sis!

Next, Write down your blessings

Now that you’ve laid everything down, you should write down all of your blessings.

The great thing about God is that He will always provide. He promised to always be there for you, and give you peace. When you practice gratitude, it makes you so thankful for all the things you have. Even when you have very little.

Because if you have something, anything, just be thankful because it could always be a lot worse. I’ve been practicing giving praise to God and man… My feelings of envy no longer exist.

Now, I’m genuinely happy when I see that someone has something good. Because I realize that it’s their blessing, not mine. If God wanted me to have it, He will bless me with it or something better in His time. And the same goes for you.

Til next time,

– Much Love, Ash ❤️